Thursday, November 8, 2012

I've said this before...

but I have to say it again. This has been a bad year for me in many ways. My health, my marriage in major ways, and things that have happened in the np community in more minor ways.
Some of my packages to others have gone astray. Don't ask me why, I don't know. Blame USPS. Blame other postal services around the world. I've had parcels I've sent go missing from time to time before. I've had parcels I was the recipient of go missing from time to time before.

When I've been the sender, as soon as I possibly could I've tried to correct the situation.

I need to say this. I think that if I were a swaplifter, not only would I NOT try to correct the situation(after all, that would mean that I had intended all along not to honour my side of the deal), but I would permanently ignore the person I had swapped with! I wouldn't message them, why would I? I'd make no effort to contact them at all, and I'd make no effort to make things right.

One particular person believes that I never sent my end. Wrong. Not only did I send my end(admittedly, the initial parcel was delayed due to my health,) but when the person concerned advised me that they hadn't received the first package, I actually sent a second parcel. In the midst of all this bear in mind that I'm in and out of the hospital, I also move to another state due to the breakdown of my marriage (which ended very abruptly during one of my hospital stays) I lost the paperwork! It happens. Especially considering my move!

Anyway, the person I'm talking about tells a lot of people that I never sent her anything. I know I did. Here's what happened. On the first 2 parcels, I wrote the address down incorrectly. It was either the city, or a number, something like that. I remember it was one thing, I just don't remember what(I had too many other more important things going on in my life)It wasn't the entire address that was wrong, it was one thing and one thing only.

Now I've just sent this person a 3rd parcel. I kept her in the loop as much as I possibly could. This person decided to tell the community of a certain forum that I'd sent her nothing. Wow. Because she can read my mind, right?

It really doesn't make sense that a person who had deliberately set out to cheat someone else would tell her what was going on! It doesn't make sense that the would-be cheat would then send a 3rd parcel(this time I sent her proof of shipping straight away, my mistake the first 2 go rounds, but like I say, things happen.) 

It doesn't make sense. If I'd deliberately set out to cheat you, I sure as heck wouldn't keep you in the loop about my intent, and I sure as heck wouldn't attempt to make the situation right!

When parcels to me have gone missing in the past, the only time I was positive that there was foul play was when the other person made no attempt to contact me, and no attempt to rectify the situation, despite numerous messages from me. If, on the other hand the sender has kept me in the loop, and has 'righted' the situation, I know they're honest!

Now, why this why this person thinks I'm not honest is beyond me. It doesn't make sense. I've tried to make the situation right by sending her yet another parcel because she told me she didn't get either of the first 2. I've sent her proof of shipping. I don't know what else she wants! I don't know why she would tell others of the situation other than to cause drama, and to cause trouble. Simple as that. I now think she actually got the first 2 parcels. I don't know how, but why else would she try to make out like I was the dishonest one to others? It sounds a lot like a pre-emptive strike to me. That's all I can say.

I'm not a cheat. I live by the saying "do as you would be done by." I'm not saying any more about this after this post. I'm done. I'm sick of it. Mistakes happen. People who are innocent try to make things right with others. That's exactly what I've done. If I offend you, or if you're one of the people that has decided I'm in the wrong, so be it. I can't change your mind, and quite frankly I don't want to. I can't prove my intent to do the right thing. Also, you've decided what you want to think about me. If you don't like me, don't read this blog.

Anyway, I've had my say. I've talked it out. I've told you my side. I hope to see you next time I post. I really do. In the mean time, take care, be safe and try to be happy.



  1. Aww hun! That sucks. Those of us who now you KNOW your honest. Ignore the rest? And anyone who wants a reference for you, send em my way! I'll straighten them out!!!

  2. Oh honey, thank you so much. It means a lot to me that you haven't judged me. It really does.